If there is anything we can completely count on in life it is change. Nothing ever stays the same. Our external world is ever-changing. Look around you; look at you. Nothing is as it was a year ago, three months ago or even yesterday. We are forever growing and evolving. Some people feel life happens to them and others tap into the depths of their soul to realize they are an active participants of their reality. I don’t know about you but I would rather choose the latter.
How does this apply to your life after baby? Having a baby is a major life event and it modifies almost every aspect of your life drastically; your relationship with your spouse, your activities, your friendships, your work and career, your finances, it all changes. Sometimes this can cause frustration, disappointment, even depression. If these changes in your life have become uncomfortable be grateful as this is an opportunity to go within and reconnect to yourself.
If you want to be the best mom you can be, it is absolutely mandatory for you to question yourself and design your life vision. With this clarity about your future you will meet the challenging days ahead with much greater ease. You will feel empowered knowing you are still a free woman creatively choosing your reality.
Depending on your circumstances your life post-pregnancy likely involves key people such as your spouse and perhaps your other children. It is your choice to involve them in the exercise I am about to suggest. You can build a family vision or you can begin with your own personal vision.
Preparing your vision
Begin by answering the following questions:
- What are your top 3 family priorities?
- What is one goal you have for each of the following areas of your life (financial, friendship, family, romance, work/career, fun and recreation, spirituality, health)?
- What makes you happy on a daily basis?
- What brings peace to your heart?
- What are the essential activities you could not live without?
- What people bring out the best in you?
- What does your ideal day look like?
- At the end of your life, looking-back, what do you want to be able to say about how you lived and what you accomplished?
Designing your vision
After answering the above questions, you are ready to design your vision. Your vision can be expressed through affirmations, where you use the future vision of yourself and your life as the objective but write statements – affirmations – that reflect that future in the present tense. Think of tomorrow, as well as years from now, and bring back that vision to the present day, writing your vision as though it were already true. Be brief, specific and clear.
Once you have completed your vision, congratulate yourself for investing in yourself and your family this way. Print your vision and put it somewhere in your house where you will read it often. Live your vision, fully or partially, day by day. Your daily intentions will compound over time. As a coach of mine once said, “It all counts.”
The feelings of frustration after the arrival of a child can lead you to digging deeper to realize your priorities. Take every frustration, every moment of despair and turn it into something beautiful and life-enhancing. Your vision will do that for you.